Men Won't Go To Therapy


Men don’t want to go to therapy.

Why would they?

When the American Psychological Association declared traditional masculinity “harmful.”

And the majority of therapist are women who graduated from woke institutions that want to smash the patriarchy.

And how does sitting around talking about your problems help you become more powerful and successful?

It doesn’t.

The truth is most therapy is useless for men.

You’re better off taking up Ju-Jitsu or hitting the gym, working out your emotions through intense physical exertion.

That said… if you’re honest with yourself, there are times when your emotions get the best of you.

You lash out, reactive.

You get defensive, angry.

You isolate, retreat, blame, make yourself a victim.

You self-sabotage. Procrastinate. Miss workouts. Eat shitty food. Smoke weed. Watch porn.

And then you judge yourself for it. “What the fuck is my problem?”

So you make a vow to be more disciplined.

“This time I’ll commit.”

But you don’t.

Sure, maybe you stick to it for a while, but ultimately the bad behavior returns and you’re back where you started.

You’re in a loop. It’s Groundhog Day.

You’re getting nowhere and you don’t know why.

I’ll tell you why:

ALL YOUR SELF-DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR IS DRIVEN BY UNCONSCIOUS EMOTIONS.

And until you know and understand these emotions, you will never be free.

Master Your Emotions. Master Reality.

Do you believe you create your reality?

You better. Otherwise, you’re at the mercy of events outside yourself, a slave to circumstance.

No freedom or control.

Like a pinball randomly bouncing off bumpers locked inside some ridiculous game.

It’s how life felt for me for a long time.

Until the pain was too much to bear, and I got angry enough to finally face the fear I’d been avoiding all my life.

If you’re still reading this, you probably know what I’m talking about.

What happened?

I woke up and saw the matrix that was running my mind.

A program written in my childhood and reinforced by a culture intent on keeping me weak and small.

I was being ruled by unseen forces inside myself.

It was a powerful awakening.

But it TOOK ME DOWN.

Everything I thought I knew was a lie, and I spun into chaos.

“Who am I?”

“Is anything fucking real?”

I quit my career and went searching.

Radical group therapy. Ayahuasca. Vision Quest. Meditation. Breathwork. I tried it all.

I went to the depths of my darkness, fighting all the way, until finally let go and surrendered to my pain.

And then I saw the light of freedom.

The one true thing.

The Way

What does all this have to do with emotions?

EMOTIONS ARE THE MATRIX.

They are source of every thought and belief you hold.

And it’s your thoughts and beliefs that are the architects of your world.

“So I just need to change my thoughts and beliefs to get what I want?”

Yes, but it’s not that simple.

Because there’s an Agent Smith inside your mind determined keep you down.

And he’s a liar. A tricksters. A killer. And he will stop at nothing.

To really change and make it stick, you have to debug the program.

Then rewrite it at the source.

This means facing your fears and confronting your pain.

It means letting go of your old life to make way for the new.

It means surrendering your ego and letting God work through you.

It means taking responsibility for your life and a total commitment to your mission.

You came here for a reason.

You have something to give.

Something to contribute.

Something to build.

Something to create.

This is your salvation.

And it’s waiting for you...

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